KINDRED SPIRITS REPORT

 

A Solar Writer Report

for Angelina Jolie

 

 

 

Written by Brian Clark

 

 

Awakenings, Inc.
 
PO Box 10672
Prescott, AZ 86304-0672 

www.pastlifeastrology.com

 

 

 

 


 


Astrological Summary

 

Chart Point Positions: Angelina Jolie

 

Planet

Sign

Position

House

Comment

The Moon

Aries

13°Ar05'

9th

 

The Sun

Gemini

13°Ge25'

11th

 

Mercury

Gemini

22°Ge19'

11th

 

Venus

Cancer

28°Cn09'

12th

 

Mars

Aries

10°Ar42'

9th

 

Jupiter

Aries

17°Ar25'

9th

 

Saturn

Cancer

17°Cn23'

12th

 

Uranus

Libra

28°Li47'

4th

 

Neptune

Sagittarius

10°Sg20'

5th

 

Pluto

Libra

6°Li31'

3rd

 

Chiron

Aries

26°Ar46'

10th

 

The North Node

Sagittarius

0°Sg53'

5th

 

The Ascendant

Cancer

28°Cn53'

1st

 

The Midheaven

Aries

17°Ar52'

10th

 

 

 

Chart Point Aspects

 

Planet

Aspect

Planet

Orb

App/Sep

The Moon

Sextile

The Sun

0°20'

Applying

The Moon

Conjunction

Mars

2°22'

Separating

The Moon

Conjunction

Jupiter

4°20'

Applying

The Moon

Square

Saturn

4°18'

Applying

The Moon

Trine

Neptune

2°44'

Separating

The Moon

Opposition

Pluto

6°33'

Separating

The Moon

Conjunction

The Midheaven

4°47'

Applying

The Sun

Conjunction

Mercury

8°54'

Applying

The Sun

Semisquare

Venus

0°15'

Applying

The Sun

Sextile

Mars

2°42'

Separating

The Sun

Opposition

Neptune

3°04'

Separating

The Sun

Trine

Pluto

6°53'

Separating

The Sun

Semisquare

Chiron

1°39'

Separating

The Sun

Semisquare

The Ascendant

0°28'

Applying

Venus

Square

Uranus

0°38'

Applying

Venus

Square

Chiron

1°23'

Separating

Venus

Trine

The North Node

2°44'

Applying

Venus

Conjunction

The Ascendant

0°44'

Applying

Mars

Conjunction

Jupiter

6°43'

Applying

Mars

Trine

Neptune

0°22'

Separating

Mars

Opposition

Pluto

4°11'

Separating

Mars

Conjunction

The Midheaven

7°10'

Applying

Jupiter

Square

Saturn

0°02'

Separating

Jupiter

Conjunction

The Midheaven

0°27'

Applying

Saturn

Square

The Midheaven

0°29'

Applying

Uranus

Opposition

Chiron

2°01'

Applying

Uranus

Square

The Ascendant

0°05'

Separating

Chiron

Square

The Ascendant

2°07'

Applying

The North Node

Trine

The Ascendant

1°59'

Separating

 


INTRODUCTION

 

”Kindred Spirits are not so scarce as I used to think. It’s splendid to find out that there are so many of them in the world.”

 – L M Montgomery,  Anne of Green Gables

 

Kindred Spirits and Soulmates

 

Anne Shirley, the heroine of the delightful “Anne of Green Gables”, innately knew when she had met her soulmate, whom she endearingly referred to as a kindred spirit. It was not the person’s age, sex, race, what they were wearing, their social status, income, physical appearance, charm or any other visible clue that gave her this sense of profound knowing. Nothing purposeful or intentional drew her to her soulmates. Her heart inexplicably knew that a divine grace brought them both together.

 

Such is the nature of the mysterious force that brings two soulmates into contact. Relationship is a sacred rite that brings us into a close encounter with the truth of our own heart and the elusiveness of our soul. True relationship cannot be arranged, figured out or fixed up. Any attempt to control a relationship flows against the current of our soul. The best that we can do is to enter into its mystery, engage in its paradoxes and know our selves intimately enough to be in relationship, whatever that might bring.

 

The term ‘soul’ has a long history and been used in various ways philosophically and non-philosophically, contributing to its confusing and ambiguous nature. In contemporary terms it often refers to an ‘X’ factor that brings a piece of music alive, renders a poem inspiring, animates a theatrical performance or makes work meaningful. When applied to a relationship it describes the mystery that unites two individuals and enchants and animates the quality of each one’s life. It does not suggest that the pain of daily living subsides or that life is transformed. But it does bring a depth and resonance, allowing meaning, imagination and fantasy to re-animate life. We meet our kindred spirits throughout the course of our lives, first in the family then later as friends, colleagues, lovers, partners at work and play. Soul is not generally found in the lofty heights of idealisation and illusion but in the valleys of pain and despair.

 

Soul is also what gives life its value and is the lynch pin of our individuality. Our soulmates honour our individuality and allow us to become more of who we are. Paradoxically by nature the soul moves towards attachment, belonging and fusion with another; yet, it also strives for separation, individuality and freedom. Our relationships become a vessel where we submerge ourselves yet from which we also attempt to flee.

 

This report encourages you to reflect on what it means for you to love, to be a brother, a sister, a friend, a colleague, a partner and a lover. What does your soul need in these relationships? What patterns weave themselves into the nature of your intimate relationships? Astrology is a great ally of the soul, as the Horoscope has an abundance of rich images that help us reflect on and imagine our authentic self; imagination being the language of the soul. This report will strive to veer you towards reflection by illustrating images within your Horoscope, images that may reveal powerful patterns of relationship and bring you more closely aligned with your soul’s intent. Astrology helps us focus on our personal view of the cosmos and soul. Therefore this report contains some standout astrological images that may help you reconsider your relationships in a different light.


IN THE BEGINNING IS FAMILY

 

 

“It begins with your family

 But soon it comes round to your soul”

- Leonard Cohen,  “The Sisters of Mercy”

 

Lunar Legacies

 

The very first relationship begins within family. No matter what your individual fate may be, your family is where you forged your earliest relationships, took your beginning steps and first experienced an attachment to someone else. Your earliest experiences of forming an emotional bond have a decisive influence on your capacity to feel safe enough to explore relationships beyond the foundation stones of your family. If you experienced a secure attachment then mastery over your environment as you grow up is a lot easier. This is because you were more aware of feeling safe and knowing you were loved. Human beings gain a greater sense of self, distinct from the family, in the shelter of a safe nest and with adequate protection. We learn to develop our individuality when we have developed a sense of belonging. In a perfect world the family matrix supports and secures our sense of self. Ironically, the deeper the sense of safety and belonging, the more capacity there is for individuality and forging intimate adult attachments.

 

Without an early sense of acceptance and attachment, feeling secure enough to forge bonds outside the family is more complex. In this case, later relationships can become a test of our sense of safety and acceptance. Also our family is a training ground for the ways that we view relationship patterns. Father, mother, brother, sister, son, daughter are all relationships that are illustrated in your Horoscope not only as literal figures, but depicting the patterns of relationships. A helpful way of thinking about your mother or father is not who they are, what they did, how they behaved but how this impacted on you and hence created patterns of behaviour in your life.

 

In astrology this early bonding process is depicted by the Moon. The Moon symbolises what you need to feel accepted and loved. It indicates the nature of your home and your quest to belong. As the symbol of your deepest emotional patterns, it reflects how you nest and protect yourself. Therefore, through the Moon, you can see indications of your living space, eating patterns, and habitual routines. It also represents ‘mother love’, your ability to feel loved and your experience of being loved. It symbolises not only your earliest associations but also your adolescent and then adult relationships.

 

If your earliest experiences have not been life-enhancing then you may need to change some of your innate relationship expectations and patterns. Modern psychologists would emphasise the need “to re-parent” this part of yourself in adult relationships. The Moon can help in this process by indicating the ways in which you can find solace and comfort in the depths of yourself. It is important to recognise your own needs, so you are not subconsciously expecting your friends and partners to fulfill them. Unmet needs can contribute to feeling dependent and hinder your ability to enjoy true intimacy. The idiosyncrasies, habits and routines you bring into relationships are a function of the Moon. Ironically destiny challenges you in your adult relationships to find healthy ways to nurture your personal needs. Therefore it is of prime importance to come to know your Moon as intimately and as respectfully as you can.

 

The Moon is in Aries

Your Moon is in Aries, which is a Fire sign. When you are born with your Moon in the Element of Fire it suggests that love and playfulness are entwined; in other words you are more inclined to attach when you feel that there is room for adventure and play. You probably want to say, “if you love me play with me, have fun with me but don’t fence me in”. The strings that bind you to another are not tied tightly. As a child you felt loved and cared for when you felt free enough to be expressive, curious and inquisitive. Emotions simmer just below boiling point but are only likely to erupt when your needs are blocked or threatened. Therefore you are probably familiar with your temper, as it might have blown a few times as a kid when you didn’t get your way, were told ‘No!’ or had to wait. As you started to socialize you hopefully learned to control your temper, but to this day you may still be aware of feeling frustrated and impatient when things aren’t going your way or fast enough. The family provides your training ground to learn to compromise, be patient and emotionally connected to other people.

 

Your natural instinct is to feel more able to connect to another person when there is enough independence and freedom in the relationship. You need the time and space to pursue your own goals, follow your own dreams and play your own games. But needing time and space and being preoccupied can also prevent you from being close to your loved ones. Like other things when you fall in love you do not waste time. It is instant and all of a sudden things are changing. For someone so independent it is quite a shock to see the turn around. So while you need your freedom, you are also inclined to attach quickly when love is in the air. Before you know it relationship plans are afoot.

 

Therefore it is wise to be aware of your eternal need for independence, spontaneity and challenge. You long to share your adult home with someone who respects these aspects of your nature but also is able to stand up to you and compete with you. Your natural instinct is competitive and driven. When you were younger that rivalry might have been with a sibling or school chum; now it’s your partner, so the only word of advice is to find healthy and conscious ways of competing. This keeps the passion in the relationship alight without obliterating the other person’s own needs and desires. In adult relationships you need an outlet with your partner for equal competition whether together or separately; without that your partner might be left feeling overtaken or left behind.

 

When things are difficult in the relationship you might wait until you explode to deal with them; therefore challenging recreation and competition are positive ways to deal with pent-up emotions. With your Moon in a Fire sign your feelings can be hot and fiery. When they are passionate and involved there is an outlet but when they are bottled up and unexpressed they can become volatile. Therefore it is best to remember what your needs are and how best to nourish them.

 

Feeling Secure in an Insecure World

 Planets that affect the Moon need to be honoured and acknowledged in each individual’s style of attachment, as they reveal an authentic way of being in relationship. When aspecting the Moon, planets influence your early development and your ability to be intimate in adult relationships. Hence planets aspecting the Moon influence our capacity for closeness, comfort and trust in relationships.

 

Mars is Conjunct The Moon

When the feisty planet Mars combines with the emotional Moon, the tug-of-war between individuality and belonging is highlighted. This is because Mars stresses independence while the Moon favours dependence. There is a dilemma in choosing between activity and passivity, aggression and pacification even violation, and protection. Perhaps your family experience placed a strong focus on independence overriding the development of personal security. Concentration on self-sufficiency, standing up for your self, being tough and striving forward might be triggered as a reactive defence when you feel insecure. With this aspect you were highly sensitive to any antagonistic or hostile feelings that permeated the family atmosphere. Unexpressed anger, rivalry and ill feelings may have compromised your sense of safety. Therefore to protect your vulnerability a passive-aggressive pattern of behaviour may have solidified to help you get what you wanted without ruffling any feathers. An aggressive and provocative personality is helpful in masking insecurities. However it also acts against your own needs by defending intimacy. With this difficult combination it is important to consider how you react when vulnerability or dependency is stimulated in your relationships.

 

If your attachment was secure, your parents have encouraged your expression of appropriate desires, self-assertion and how to use your will to achieve positive outcomes. You feel able to express your individuality and your anger and still feel that you are loved and that you belong. By feeling bonded, your capacity to explore outside the family would not been compromised by unresolved feelings of anger or rivalry. Therefore you are better equipped to differentiate between your own desires and the needs of others, not feeling that you need to act in the way others demand in order for you to feel safe and acceptable.

 

However, when attachment has been compromised, the family atmosphere of suppressing anger clouds your ability to express anger in a healthy manner and leaves you feeling you must go after what you want in a covert or under-handed way. You learn that that to be angry means love will be withdrawn. Your inability to sustain an enduring bond might be anchored in the early feelings of not being supported to be both independent and intimate. When caught in a fight-or-flight syndrome, you might indiscriminately react.

 

Your kindred spirits will understand your need for freedom and self expression without demanding concessions. They will also support your independent spirit and volatile reactions without threat of withdrawal. Because your attachment style may have shaped your vigilance and strong reactions, it does not mean that all adult relationships will demand you compromise your integrity or mask your negative feelings. Through your relationships you learn that the dual impulses of mastery and frustration, love and anger, freedom and intimacy can coexist.

 

Jupiter is Conjunct The Moon

When the planet Jupiter combines with the Moon you have a strong urge to explore beyond your family circle, possibly outside your culture as well. You need to feel safe on foreign soil.

 

Within your family of origin you explore and question family members’ attitudes and beliefs. It is also possible than one or both of your parents were born overseas, are from a different culture or a multi-cultural, religious or bilingual family, or may have lived or been schooled abroad. Whether this is literally so in your case, psychologically this aspect’s essence stresses your cross-cultural needs. Religious and cultural beliefs, academic and innovative education, human values, and hope and optimism in the future play a large role in your security and attachment. How this was accomplished in the family of origin influences the degree of safety you feel in the world. In an adult context this suggests that you might discover the mystery of intimacy when in foreign territory.

 

If you felt secure in a family atmosphere that prized tolerance, open-mindedness, education and cross-cultural experiences, then you are likely to experience a sense of belonging as well as independence. Encouraged to think beyond the square and accept all cultures and religions, you could develop your natural capacity to explore appropriate ways to extend experience beyond the family circle. You mature confident in your own beliefs and have hope for the future. You are liberal, far-reaching and expansive. You need to be encouraged to find the foreign in the familiar, to spice up your meals and open the mind.

 

If prejudice, dogma, inflexible beliefs and rigid cultural attitudes polluted your family atmosphere, then the consent to form personal opinions and beliefs was compromised. This would leave you feeling uncertain about your own beliefs or opinions. If your ability to adventure outside the safety zone of the family is impaired, you might have developed a sense of entitlement which keeps you aloof from being involved in exploring differences. When confined by inflexible attitudes you feel unsupported in your vision and human values. This aspect suggests you may have been encouraged to mistrust what is foreign, be apprehensive of the outside world or fear the future. If your family encouraged you to hang onto its limited religious and cultural way of thinking, your hope for the future becomes compromised. With this combination the family values may have been short sighted. However in an adult context it is imperative that belonging or intimacy is forged in a wide-open space that encourages tolerance, exploration and differences.

 

Your kindred spirits will encourage your natural visions of faraway places, your excitement of foreign landscapes and help you dream the dream of adventure into higher realms. You intimately need to explore beyond the boundaries of your home and homeland, meaning your destiny might be to take root on foreign soil or explore other religions, beliefs and values. Your soulmates will help you to spread your wings and find your sense of where you belong.

 

Saturn is Square The Moon

When the serious planet Saturn combines with the Moon, rules and regulations are an important feature of family life.

 

If your parents’ values and rules did not support your sense of self or your feelings of belonging, then it is likely that you felt imprisoned in a system not of your choice, but controlled by an external authority. As you mature it is important to consider whether your ability to perform, set goals and be self-sufficient was an integral part of the family atmosphere. Did the family ethos encourage you to be a contributing member of society, follow tradition and respect authority? Or did you feel burdened by the pressure to perform in order to be loved? Your feelings of acceptance may be gauged by your performance; the need to be good and be loved becomes interlaced. Therefore you might have withdrawn rather than reach out. Rather than feeling contained and safe in the family environs, you may have felt that boundaries and rules isolated you, severing you from feeling close and included. Becoming self-sufficient helped to mask your feelings of rejection and exclusion. You may have felt that love was measured or controlled, only meted out with good behaviour or top marks. Performance and acceptance become entangled in feeling safe. Hence your ability to leave the family or other situations is often compromised by your feelings of responsibility for those left behind.

 

If your attachment was secure, regulations and the consequences when rules were broken helped you set appropriate limits and goals. Firm boundaries ensured you felt safe. Predictability in family life encouraged you to feel in control and helped you manage the gaps of aloneness. Regularity is a vital ally to secure development; however, if this engenders fear and anxiety then the rigidity of the family system suffocates individuality. Hierarchy is essential in early childhood but its grip must loosen if you are to develop a healthy sense of personal autonomy.

 

If the family atmosphere was cold and distant, your fear of rejection and anxiety at doing the wrong thing was increased. Lacking the appropriate boundaries you were unable to be in control, feeling limited and stuck. A lack of adequate fostering or authoritative guidance added to your isolation in the family. Therefore in later years insularity and isolation are confused with containment and self-control. In an adult context intimacy is impaired through fear of rejection and an exaggerated sense of responsibility for others’ feelings.

 

Ask yourself if you have the feeling that to be loved you need to be perfect, or if not perfect then in the top percentile. Do you expect the same from your loved ones? It is more important for you to develop a strong sense of values than encompass love and compassion. Then it is your kindred spirits who can accept you unconditionally and provide a safe place for you to belong. Your soulmates are your good-enough folk who show you that what you do is not only better than perfect but so useful. They make you feel that you are a necessary contribution to their lives. But the learning curve is steep as you face the patterns in your adult relationships around earning love, the need to be taken seriously, fear of rejection and self- reliance. Your biggest test is letting someone love you.

 

Pluto is Opposite The Moon

This combination suggests intense and powerful feelings that may have been first experienced in the family. Issues of trust, honesty, integrity and reliability are forged with the need to feel safe. This suggests very potent, even forbidden or repressed, feelings may have leaked into your family atmosphere. Your fate suggests that there is a dark depth to your feeling life and this is where you will find soul. Like Persephone you need to descend into the feelings to find the authentic other side of self. This might leave you feeling out of control in any relationship, as you find it difficult to trust another.

 

Your family system may have been confronted with powerful issues of loss and grief as well as taboos and secrets. Power and influence are issues or they have been in the family past and these affect the integrity of your family. The family need for honesty, trust and cohesion are strong due to the ancestral denials and unexpressed grief that infiltrate the current family climate. You were privy to these denials and secrets, even though they were not spoken about. However, you knew them in the depths of yourself, and your destiny is to know that you know the truth even though everyone else may be denying or lying about it.

 

When safe, you felt protected from harm and part of a tribe that was bound by trust. Emotional honesty in the family would encourage you to be intimate and truthful about what you feel. Negative feelings were allowed to be expressed without fear of judgement or reprisal and were not allowed to pollute the atmosphere of the family. If grief and loss were acknowledged as part of the life cycle, then you were better equipped to let go and move forward with life. But this is not generally the case, as when Pluto and the Moon combine the darker feelings are often left to fester. If so you felt them and were influenced by their potency. However when authentic feelings are allowed to be expressed this engenders honesty, integrity and the powerful sense of being protected and sheltered by indelible strength.

 

However a darker side could exist especially if your family atmosphere was polluted with secrets, shame or unexpressed grief. This complicates your ability to be close or intimate with others for fear of exposing the secret and betraying the family. In this case separation from your family may be accomplished in a Persephone-like way through being snatched, abducted or seduced into another atmosphere of control and dominance. If power and control are mobilised to suppress a secret, a sense of shame is instilled leaving you unable to differentiate between what is private and what is secret. Power may also have been abusive in that it kept you from expressing your true self. Powerlessness induces rage therefore your family atmosphere might have been polluted with rage and brutal feelings. Feeling unprotected and vulnerable to attack, you learn to mistrust the world at large. When the family is bonded together by an inappropriate secret or shame the risk of difficulty with separation is heightened and anyone outside the family unit is cast in the role of enemy. Transferring loyalties to someone outside the family constitutes betrayal, leaving you in fear of being disinherited.

 

Therefore you could swing between being charismatic and compulsive. You are charismatic because you are able to confront others honestly and with integrity encouraging a sense of trust. Compulsive because when you hide your true needs or feelings you begin to ruminate and feel compelled to try to hide them. So as an adult issues of trust, power and control will be themes that help you confront you inner strength and conviction. Your kindred spirits trust you and are able to be intimate with the deepest and darkest part of your self without you feeling ashamed or defended. You know you can be completely honest about your feelings, even the darkest ones, and not be chastised or rejected. Your capacity to forge an intimate bond is great; however on the other side you also have the capacity to withhold due to mistrust. But your fate is to learn to trust yourself and know you will be safe. Your family experiences laid the groundwork for this great task.

 

Home is Where We Start From

 In astrology the 4th House signifies the environmental atmosphere of the family home. It is also the terrain of our innermost life where basic needs for emotional security and nurturing are first experienced. It is in this section of the Horoscope where we first experience feelings of belonging, being at home, and being connected. These experiences lay the foundation for security levels in adult relationships. When considering relationships with others, the 4th House symbolises our most intimate ties with family and those who support and nurture us. As well-respected psychotherapist D.W. Winnicott said “home is where we start from”.

 

Planets in the 4th House describe the climate of your family home and the attitudes and influences of your family of origin. These attitudes shape your sense of inner security and the degree to which you feel safe enough to reach out to others. Because 4th House patterns are not always conscious, the planetary energies may not be fully known or understood until they surface in adult relationships as non-supportive habits and unclear behaviourial patterns. A planet or planets located in the 4th House are bedrock and foundation for the security, inner strength and self acceptance that you later bring into your adult relationships.

 

Without planets in this sphere, the conditions of the House can be described in other ways such as the Sign on the Cusp and its Ruler. Planets, however, personify archetypal images and without a planet in the 4th, the astrologer's focus would be on the Moon to describe the attachment style moulded through the family. Take a moment to reflect on how you feel the level of emotional safety in your family influenced your relationship blueprint.

 

Uranus is in the 4th House

Like the other outer planets, Uranus describes experiences beyond the personal, and when placed in the 4th House suggests that underlying the family were larger patterns of separation or disconnection that might have influenced your sense of safety and security. In other words perhaps there was a schism in the family; and how this manifested in your experience is worth reflecting upon. Perhaps your family was fragmented with everyone doing their own thing. Or a sudden separation, relocation or unexpected change created a sense of insecurity that reverberated through your early years. What this placement suggests is that you feel uprooted or dislocated in some way. Whether this was an actual experience from childhood or not, you know the feeling that you belong somewhere else.

 

You are unique. Being one of a kind might sound exciting, but not when you were a kid trying to fit into your family. Being distinctive might have felt uncomfortable when you were younger but that is the truth. Therefore your challenge was how to accept being peerless in a group and the different one in the family. Hopefully your family atmosphere supported this. If not, you might have felt disconnected and cold. The irony of course is that it is your parents and family setting that might have been alternative, and you the ‘normal’ one. No matter how fate illustrates your family script you need to distance yourself from them to get perspective, leaving you feeling as if you don’t know whether you belong here or there.

 

You might also swing between a need for freedom in any relationship and a need to be close. Usually what happens is that wherever you are, you want the alternative. In a relationship you want freedom and when independent you want closeness, a pattern born out of the climatic conditions of early attachment. You are a renegade in some way, rebelling against the status quo and therefore it is important to understand that you are not actually cutting off your own needs for an ideal of individuality. On the other hand your family life might have been quite alternative with many changes of scene. However you were raised you feel that you need to take risks in your emotional life. The road less travelled beckons you and you need to experiment and explore a variety of emotional and relationship options. Often with such a changing landscape in early childhood you never knew what to expect when you came home. Hence you might have developed a hypersensitivity to help you cope with the various options that might present themselves. This could present as anxiety; however often it also a well developed faculty of intuition and ability to read future possibilities. It is important to know that this skill is a deeper part of you and not just a defence born from trying to feel safe with your future.

 

You need to feel independent in your relationships and in group experiences, so that your ingenious and inventive traits can emerge. So your task of balancing your need to be nurtured and safe with your urge to be independent and free holds a major challenge. You will come to recognise the impulse to take flight when there is an emotional stagnancy but you will also come to know that when you are free as a bird you also long for a nest. Your family provided the fodder for you to understand your independent spirit; in adult life it is your task to nurture that. To do this it is important not to split or polarise the two extremes of freedom and closeness but to realise your responsibility in finding your own space and distance in a relationship so that you can feel safe enough to attach.

 

Some of the imprints of your ancestral or family experiences may be addressed in your adult years as you forge relationships and consider your family of choice. In the life cycle of Uranus the defining moments present between ages 20-22, 38-42 and the early 60’s. For you these life stages might find you on a road less travelled to understand your adventurous urge to find where you belong. On the way you encounter some other unusual and interesting kindred spirits who help show you that where you belong is far from ordinary or commonplace. Friends are your family and you have gathered around you your kindred spirits who help you feel comfortable with your kaleidoscope of unique needs.


PRIMARY RELATIONSHIPS

 

Our Early Soulmates

 

Siblings, Cousins, Neighbours, Playmates and School Chums

 

 

“One would be in less danger

 From the wiles of a stranger

 If one’s own kin and kith

 Were more fun to be with”

- Ogden Nash

 

The Third House

 

The 3rd House significantly contributes to shaping relationship patterns, as this is where the first connection with peers is located. Initial experiences of these relationships make their impression on our attitudes towards companionship, partnership and friendship. Feelings, reactions, trauma, trust, freedom, love, fear, in effect the full spectrum of early relationships, lay the foundation for our adult attachments to friends and partners. This sector of the Horoscope is the storehouse where attitudes towards others that shared our early environment, mainly siblings, but also cousins, neighbourhood friends and primary schoolmates, are contained. Social interactions with partners, colleagues and acquaintances have their origins in these experiences, suggesting the 3rd House of the Horoscope reveals the template for relationship pattern.

 

The 3rd House is critical when analyzing relationships since it illustrates how we first experience peers and the impact they may have on future relationships. We first test the response from the world through the action or reaction of our siblings and early childhood playmates. The sibling relationship can extend to friends, classmates and others, particularly for only children. In many cases of an only child, fate arranges it so there is a replacement sibling: a cousin, a neighbour, a step-sibling or special friend.

 

When investigating the 3rd House it is important to recognise our position in the family. Our birth order, along with the number and gender of our siblings, has a considerable impact on personality. Birth order was often a theme in the myths, fairy tales, fables and biblical stories we grew up with. It is often enlightening to consider your birth position and how that impacts on your relationships. Expectations, patterns we repeat with partners and even our choice of mate may be more influenced by our siblings than we realise.

 

Following are some illustrations of your 3rd House energies which may help you reflect on your earliest relationships, especially those with siblings, cousins, neighbourhood chums, schoolmates, sports buddies and friends.

 

3rd House Cusp is in Virgo

The Earth Sign Virgo on your 3rd House Cusp suggests that coherence, respect, privacy and sharing the everyday experiences of life are primary qualities of relationship that are important to you and experienced in some way with your siblings and early friends.

 

Virgo suggests ways in which you may create a sense of well being through daily rituals that help you maintain your centre and your privacy. Daily housekeeping rituals that provide a sense of order and cohesion to your life help anchor you in the hearth of your self, reducing stress. On the 3rd House Cusp Virgo highlights this need for order in the everyday experience of sharing daily tasks and intimate space with your siblings and schoolmates. What rituals or activities were important for you in growing up that helped you protect your privacy and solitude? In your sibling and early relationships you may have begun to weave the pattern of how you dealt with the chaos and commotion of relating and how you managed living with other’s mess and confusion. The pandemonium of living with others was challenged early.

 

Your sense of duty and service is also brought out in early relationship and might impact your later feelings of obligation and responsibility in relationships. Fate may have arranged a situation where you might have to administer and help in some away. The health of a sibling may have been an issue in the early years. Daily life may have focused on their well being and you may have been involved in some of their supervision. The well being of the sibling may have unconsciously moulded your attitudes towards your own health and daily maintenance. If the pattern of health was an issue in the early sibling environment, you may unconsciously carry this pattern into the adult sphere of relating once again, interacting with partners where health is a focus. On the other end of the spectrum this suggest that there may have been a consciousness of health and well being developed in relationship with your early partners that you carry into your adult relationships.

 

Analysis, criticism and the urge for improvement are Virgoian qualities that might have surfaced early in relating. Therefore it might be helpful to reflect on the degree of perfection you expect in others. Or maybe more to the point the level of perfection you expect of yourself in relationship. Early in relationship you might have realised this was negotiable. Work habits and the way you spend your time was probably greatly influenced by others early on. Your early experience of siblings and friends were like work mates. You needed to join together with them on projects and plans just as you still need to do in your present relationship. As a partner you also need to feel like a work mate. Your kindred spirits respect and honour you and help you forge the sacredness you seek in your daily life.

 

Pluto is in the 3rd House

This placement of powerful Pluto suggests that deeply personal experiences may colour your earlier memories of relationship. When Pluto is in the 3rd House of your birth chart intense feelings may be associated with early experiences of siblings, early childhood friends or people living in your neighbourhood. Often this may be through the experience of loss and grief. If so then a profound sense of loss may continue to permeate your life and relationships. The loss may not be a conscious memory or even a literal event, yet this image may still be part of your psychic terrain. While there may be no awareness of a death in the immediate family, you sense the shadow of loss in your immediate environment. This often occurs when a child is a replacement child, when the family atmosphere is clouded by the unresolved grief of the parents or when family friends or neighbours may have died tragically.

 

You may also have painful memories associated with feeling dominated and controlled by a brother, sister, or parent. Your sibling or another early relationship may have been manipulative, wielding power, confronting you with feelings of powerlessness and loss of control. A brother or sister may have coerced you into secrecy or you may have been privy to a secret you still feel obliged to keep. If the secret has gathered intense feelings of shame and guilt, it becomes a complex that keeps you and the other participants in the secret bound together in an unholy alliance. Over time your sense of feeling powerful is distinguished, as the secret is a constant reminder of being in the grip of something more powerful than you are.

 

Pluto represents an innate aloneness, which you come to understand later in life as part of the human condition. As children this is difficult, since it feels threatening to your survival and your sense of well being. You may have felt alone, which also felt painful and terrifying. You may have experienced either a deep sense of betrayal with a sibling or another or a deep sense of union and trust. It is in the sibling system or an early relationship where you may need to look first to understand your feelings of mistrust, suspicion and control. Having considered this, you may need to return to that place to heal a primal sense of betrayal before you feel able to trust once again in an adult context. No doubt your image of a kindred spirit is one with whom you may be fully engaged, completely honest, vulnerable and intimate.

 

Being Kind to our Kin

 

Another lens we can use to focus on early peer relationships is to look at planetary aspects to Mercury. Mythologically Mercury was a younger son determined to be noticed by his older brother and father and take his rightful place in the family. While he is a mascot for the younger sibling he also personifies the themes in sibling relationships. Rivalry, reconciliation, envy, companionship, separation, communication, support, loyalty and the bond of friendship are all elements of our first peer relationship with our siblings and early childhood sibling substitutes.

 

The Sun is Conjunct Mercury

When the planet Mercury makes an astrological aspect to the Sun a fusion or confusion occurs between the sibling, generally a brother but not necessarily, and father. This might suggest that your father was competitive like a sibling or that one of your siblings was paternal like a father. However this worked out, your early experience was dual; learning that relationship is both companionship and responsibility. You were aware of the communication patterns of your father and these influenced the way you might express yourself. There may have been issues of favouritism. Either you may have felt overshadowed by a sibling or aware that your father’s attention was directed towards you. Like Hermes and Apollo, there may be a fraternal contest for father’s approval and recognition. Your identity may have been caught up in some way with a sibling, influencing your adult patterns of friendship and relationship.


KINDRED SPIRITS

 

Friends, Acquaintances and Colleagues

 

 

“Friendship is a single soul dwelling in two bodies.”

- Aristotle

 

The Eleventh House

 

The 11th House is where we hope and wish for a better future, not only for our loved ones and ourselves but also for our wider family. While the 11th House suggests participation with others outside our household we are still prone to recreating unresolved family and relational patterns in the groups, social circles and professional associations we join. Underlying the social relationships of the 11th House represented by friends, colleagues and associates are the primitive patterns and expectations from our earlier peer relationships. Friendship is one of the keynotes of this House and while we feel we have more choice in creating our friendships, we may also discover left over sibling rivalries. The ideal scenario is that we become greater than who we are on our own and in this way friendship helps to expand our boundaries and encourages growth and exploration. The relationships of the 11th House refer to those forged outside the family circle.

 

This House of relationship is where we meet the kindred spirits who we encounter in the world. Roles and positions have already been forged in our sibling and other relationships and we instinctively take these into our relationships in the broader community. Our impact on society and society’s impact upon us is interconnected with our primary experiences of relationship. In the 11th House we become citizens of a larger community and meet our soul friends.

 

Relationships feel familiar, as they are kin, allies who are kindred spirits. Hopefully, the spirit that inspires and infuses us is the common link in our friends and colleagues. We can find the sense of belonging to a larger family, being individuals in a larger collective. However, the groups of friends, the group of colleagues, and the organisations we join reawaken incomplete relationship experiences and rivalry once again is experienced. Our friends, close colleagues and kindred spirits can also be the healing agents that help us reconcile and heal the pain of our earlier relationships.

 

In ancient Greece the polis was not only a representation of the city but also the spirit of the city-state. Here was where democracy flourished, the rights of citizens were respected and the early experiments at sharing power and influence were attempted. The 11th House of the Zodiac is political in that it links the individual in a spirit of equal relationship to others in the collective. Your understanding of the 11th House will help you consider how you forge a democratic, equal and co-operative relationship with others. Impinging upon the success of this is your earlier experiences of relating, your trust in human relationships and your unconscious expectations that you still harbour in relationships. Here you meet your kindred spirits in the world, who share your passions, witness your successes and share your burdens. Both the Zodiac Sign on the Cusp of this House and the planets contained in this sphere will help you reflect on your friendships and group affiliations

 

11th House Cusp is in Taurus

The 11th House represents your community, the groups you encounter and belong to outside the family: groups that you belong to because of your interests, your passions and your professional affiliations. In this House are kin, not bound by blood, but by a similar spirit of interest. Eleventh House experiences include your first class photo, your circle of friends, Girl Guides and Boy Scout experiences, the school council; groups where you were part of the community without other family members. But this House also describes your friends and kindred spirits who share your hopes and wishes and contribute to making your world the ideal place to live in.

 

With Taurus on the Cusp of the 11th House, you are at home with friends who are warm-hearted and reliable and who provide you with a sense of security and comfort in your relationship. In social situations you feel akin to others who are patient, trustworthy and have a sense of stability.

 

Through your friendships you develop a sense of worth coming to appreciate your reliability and constancy which contributes to you being a valued and trusted friend. Friends are a precious commodity; priceless in the amount of security and resource they offer and provide. While your circle of friends are not your family, they are close to the inner circle of your valued relationships. Friends are your touchstone to security as they provide a solid support network, trusty advice and a fixed point of reference. When things get rough you look to friends for solace as they provide a harbour to secure yourself in until the storm passes. However where it might become sticky is when it is time to move on.

 

Because you form such strong attachments to your friends and you invest your sense of self and resources in your friendships, you might feel rocked when they need to move on or develop new associations. Wherever Taurus is in the Horoscope points to an area where we might become over attached or possessive, unable to let go. Therefore it is important to reflect on this theme in terms of your friendships. You are passionate and involved with others but are you also able to let them be independent and free enough to do their own thing. Perhaps in the past you’ve noticed that hanging on often works against you and therefore your cosmic task here might be to value yourself enough in relationship to know that you are always valued and appreciated even at a distance. Taurus is also about possessions and ownership which you bring to the arena of friendships. Perhaps this echoes the wisdom which warns against the risk of lending money to friends. Or at least it alerts you to the complexity of lending valued treasures and hard earned resources to friends who might not value these as much as you. Friends do help you see what is of value and interest to you.

 

You share a lot of pleasure with your friends and bring your sensual awareness to relationship. Therefore with your friends, colleagues and associates you are at home sharing a sumptuous meal, a delicious red, a masterful musical composition or a beautiful artistic creation. You are generous with friends and ready to assist in times of need. But you are also aware of your need to be valued and your kindred spirits do highly appreciate you. Your soul friends treasure your friendship as they highly value your input into their lives.

 

The Sun is in the 11th House

With your Sun in the 11th House you identity strongly with either your friends or colleagues and feel compelled to be part of a group. Underlying this urge is the realisation that in a group you are able to accomplish more than you can on your own. You realize that you need the group to help actualise your creativity and self expression. You need assurance and acknowledgement, yet paradoxically this is accomplished through focus on the needs of the group and not on the self. Your personal identity is developed through group participation, through organisations and community; therefore your fate is to be recognised for group successes or organisational achievements. You must learn to cope with being one of the team, not lost in the crowd, but a vital, integral and necessary link in the creative process of the organism. Satisfaction is found in contributing whole heartily to the success of the group not through personal achievements facilitated by the group. The more you identify with the goals and aims of the group, the greater your sense of self.

 

Friendships are important, as this is the arena where you can shine. Therefore it is important to acknowledge your need for friendship, the impact you have on your friends and the significant role you play in their lives. You need to feel recognised by your peers, acknowledged by your colleagues and favoured by your circle of friends, as it is in these areas where you will forge your identity and find your purpose. Innately this placement suggests your ability to father the group or be the leader, at least be the spokesperson for what needs to be accomplished. Therefore it is not surprising that prominent individuals within organisations have with this planetary placement.

 

Since friends become such a prime relationship it is important you to foster your intimate friendships. You experience your creativity and identity through friendship, therefore equality and reciprocity is necessary. As recognition by friends is revitalising it is important to recognise how you may unwittingly collude with eclipsing yourself or fostering others’ creativity at the expense of your own in order to be acknowledged. You seek friendships where mutual support and admiration enhances your sense of self. You find your kindred spirits through mutual hobbies or similar goals, in group participation and community projects. Innately you have a great capacity for friendship and the more you love and cherish your friends, the more you feel loved and cherished.

 

Mercury is in the 11th House

Mercury is well placed in the 11th House as its natural urge for communication and interaction finds a natural outlet in the arena of like minded peers and colleagues. Your mercurial nature jumps at the chance to find an expression through a diverse group, therefore fulfilling a role of spokesperson for the organisation, being a teacher, coach or facilitator is rewarding for you. Your intellectual and communicative faculties can be well used through associations and systems to help articulate and promote the needs of the group. Therefore Mercury in this House plays a political role in helping to identify the policies and goals of the system you find yourself in. From this communal and often forward-looking place you are able to speak out on humanitarian issues and voice human concerns.

 

As a friend you seek intellectual equality and rapport. With this placement you strive for a variety of friendships and are able to juggle many diverse relationships. As an unconventional thinker you may be drawn to friends who help to support your ways of knowing the world. As an original thinker you also court friends who are intellectually challenging and innovative. Like the messenger Mercury, you might play the role as the link in the chain of friends, the instigator of group reunions and the intermediary in the organisation. Therefore with this placement you naturally keep relationship alive through your need to communicate and be in touch. These needs may draw you into mercurial groups where communicating, learning, networking and intellectual inquiry is the focus of the group.

 

Mercury in the 11th reflects an individual who needs to express themselves in society and feel equal and accepted by the group. Therefore in adult years sibling politics or dynamics may emerge when unfairness or favouritism emerges in the system. In a group you need to feel equal to the other members and also need to be certain that the leader is not displaying favouritism. If that happens then your trickster may emerge to upset the system and disturb the equilibrium. You can stir the pot to get to the truth. On the other hand you are apt to find your brothers and sisters through friendships which help to readdress the earlier relationships with your siblings and schoolmates. In a group Mercury is able to find its voice. Therefore through association with friends and associates you are able to develop your ideas, opinions and intelligence. Drawn to intelligent, creative and interesting people, over time you will learn to withdraw your projections to appreciate your own unique and creative ideas and intellect. Through your participation in group learning and training, earlier patterns of schooling can be reshaped in a positive way. Your kindred spirits are friends and colleagues who draw out your intellect, communicate to the wee hours of the morning with you and share your ideas and spirit of learning.


SOUL AND RELATIONSHIP

 

Intimate Friends and Committed Partners

 

 

“Love consists in this ... that two solitudes protect and touch and greet each other.”

- Maria Rilke Rainer

 

The Seventh House

 

As the poet describes, loving and committed relationships are forged by the alchemy of two individuals. Soul is expressed through individuality and when its unpredictable and mysterious nature is brought into intimate contact with another, a genuinely soulful relationship is possible. The 7th House is the astrological site where individuality and relationship converge. Astrologically, it is the quintessential House of relationship and its process embraces the experience of being with an equal other in a committed and intimate way. From the soul’s viewpoint this is the arena where mutuality, reciprocity and respect for individuality can work to fashion a soulful relationship that embraces the unique character of each partner. Seventh House partners are not just marriage or life partners, but also close business partners and others engaged with you in a committed relationship.

 

Traditionally this sphere was known as the House of ‘open enemies’. Whereas traditional astrology might literally ascribe qualities to a partner, contemporary astrology sees these qualities as mirror images of what is innate in us. In remaining unconscious of your 7th House energies, you proclaim them as belonging to someone else, generally your partner. We enter a mystery where we are drawn to what appears as opposite and different, yet is only a partial reflection of what is not yet conscious in us. What we sense is kin, congeniality, familiarity, yet not from the system we have known. Destiny hovers on the threshold of the 7th House; therefore the Sign on the Cusp is very often prominent in your partner’s Horoscope.

 

We can draw an analogy between the arrival of the partner and the birth of a sibling. Powerfully conflicted feelings of love and rivalry, fascination and anger, closeness and separateness are ignited in new relationships. But this is the nature of intimate relationships as strands of each soul are woven together. Astronomically the 7th House is where the sun prepares to set. It is twilight, when the light elongates the shadows and we prepare to meet the dark. Therefore it is the partner who awakens an earlier stratum of psyche where unresolved or incomplete issues and patterns from other relationships may enter into our current relationship.

 

Our partners are companions, kindred spirits and intimate others. But human nature inclines towards moulding our partners with the clay of our own unresolved patterns and complexes. The material we use for this is often our own projections, fantasies and ideals. Following is a description of your 7th House energies which might help you recognise your own ideals or those you carry for your partners. In reflecting on these and becoming more conscious of underlying patterns, you can embrace these energies more fully in yourself allowing your relationships to be less focused on the past and more anchored in the present and, hopefully more soulful.

 

7th House Cusp is in Capricorn

Astronomically your 7th House begins on the western point of the horizon. Astrologically this is the sector of the Zodiac that was setting when you were born. This Zodiacal location is exactly opposite your Ascendant or Rising Sign. Your Rising Sign depicts your personality and independent outreach into life. Your descending Sign or Descendant, as it is known, represents “others”. Therefore the Ascendant-Descendant axis becomes vital in any relationship analysis. It describes the intimate dance between yourself and your partner.

 

Your Ascendant is Cancer; therefore the Earth Sign Capricorn is on your 7th House Cusp.

 

You value commitment, discipline, and accountability and feel responsible and protective towards your peers. This may manifest as duty and obligation towards relationships. Hopefully your penchant for rules, responsibilities and tasks helps forge a secure structure for your primary relationships. You need to be careful that authority and structure do not inhibit the natural course of a relationship. When feeling insecure you could become controlling, bound by rules and deadlines that inhibit yours and your partner’s freedom and privacy. So it is wise to be aware of becoming too controlling or rigid in your relationship.

 

Earth is the Element of incarnation and materiality. Resources and possessions are important with earth on this Cusp. The contemporary Capricornian symbols of status, possessions and wealth are an important consideration in equal relationships. Do they become over stressed in this sphere? How you manage to exchange your resources with your partners is directly proportional to how bonded and trusting you feel in the relationship. You may project your need for success and acknowledgement on to a partner who is unable to mirror that back to you. Or you may trade your own pathway to the top of the corporate ladder for your partner’s success. With Capricorn here the issue of authority, control, status and success are all in the mix of relationship. How you share these and acknowledge their presence in your relationship is ultimately important.

 

Earth is the Element of the five senses, and sharing the sensual world is important. Looking at fine art, listening to a traditional piece of music, and sharing a healthy meal, are all images of the important world of earthy pleasure. You want boundaries within a relationship without cutting off the life force, having a stable and committed relationship without it becoming fixed and bound to routines. You want to be able to participate with your partner in a successful life, rewarded by the hard work you do and acknowledged for your achievements. It is possible that you form a close relationship later in life, or perhaps choose a partner who is older. Another way to describe this is to say you bring a maturity and value to your relationships which you need respected and acknowledged. And therefore the perfect relationship probably does appear with age.

 

What you are first attracted to in others is their stability and patience. You appreciate their approach and attitude to worldly things, that conservative streak and the regard for tradition. Their ambition and dedication to work and surprisingly that quirky sense of self-deprecating humour inspire you. While you may attract these qualities in your quest for equal relationship, you will also attract the shadow of these qualities. The patient and careful planner is stuck on one idea. And what you thought was poignant and black humour has turned to pessimism and cynicism. And what’s the use of having all that cash in the bank if you can’t spend some of it? You need a relationship that helps you find your own authority, set your own limits and be the worldly wise person you know you are. Your ambition, urge to excel and that delicate balance between autonomy and aloofness get played out in your relationships.

 

Qualities you admire and are attracted to in others include discipline, commitment, economy, patience, authority, competence and those practical tips for being successful in the world. And it is these very qualities that a partner helps you find in yourself. So don’t be surprised when your dear ones and kindred spirits have their Sun, Moon or other notable placements in Capricorn or excel at anything they work hard towards.


PLEASURE, PASSION AND LOVE

 

The Joys of Venus and Mars

 

 

“There is only a single magic, a single power, a single salvation and a single happiness, and that is called loving.”

- Herman Hesse

 

Venus and Mars

 

To the ancient mythmakers, Venus and Mars were consistently paired together as companions, either lovers or close sibling allies. In Roman mythology they are the deities who preside over the Empire. To the Greeks Aphrodite and Ares were deeply attached passionate lovers or siblings. In the story of “The Odyssey” they are caught in a golden web woven by Hephaestus who wove the fine filament in order to entrap Aphrodite in bed with Ares. Their relationship is an erotic one. In Homer’s earlier epic “The Iliad” their relationship is depicted as less magnetic, yet just as close. Aphrodite refers to him in this epic as ‘dear brother’. Their relationship is devoted and warm-hearted. When we imagine these gods we think of them as eternal lovers, sometimes married, other times not. They represent two layers of soulmates: erotic and emotional intimacy as well as companionship. In psychological terms they represent our inner orientation to pleasure and passion, while in astrological terms they help identify what qualities attract us to others, what we value and desire. Physiologically they are our scent and libido, the innate attractive and active forces that draw us towards companionship.

 

In term of compatibility and conflict in relationship, Venus and Mars play a leading role. The complete picture of their placement in your horoscope can be fully assessed by a professional astrologer. For this report we are only analysing the planetary sign which signifies qualities and essences important in your intimate relationships.

 

Venus is pleasure and beauty. Both in body and in spirit, Venus symbolises what you find attractive and the values you place upon your relationships, what you need to feel partnered and your own inner sense of worth and value that wants to be appreciated, honoured and respected. Your Venus sign is a metaphor for those qualities you need in relationship to feel complete.

 

Mars is passion and desire. Whether spiritual, physical, intellectual or emotional Mars symbolises how you express your desires, frustrations and energy. In terms of relationship it suggests how you assert yourself, deal with conflict and make your desires transparent. Your Mars sign describes how you might express yourself, go after what you want and how you may deal with anger in relationship. In essence it is a symbol of how your life force naturally seeks expression.

 

Being opposite in nature, Venus and Mars are naturally attracted to one another and often a highlight of your soul mate’s astrological constitution. Therefore take note of the sign placements of both Venus and Mars and how they are reflected in the horoscopes of intimate others. Use these descriptions to reflect on your values and desires. Venus themes in relationship focus on shared values, feeling loved and appreciated, money and pleasure, affection and sensuality while Mars brings themes of sex and desire, independence and individuality, dealing with conflict and the sharing of goals out into the open. By nature Venus is feminine and Mars is masculine; therefore gender wise Venus might be more integrated into the personality for women while Mars might be more accessible for men. That ”Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus thing again. Hence a man’s Venus might be a fair description of women he is attracted to while a woman’s Mars often describes the men she attracts.

 

Venus is in Cancer

Cook looking for Dinner Companion

 Imagine this advertisement in the personal column of your local paper. On a lighter note there may be some truth in this for you, because when you are in love don’t you love to cook? NO, well maybe you should try it. Your grandmother used to say, “The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach”. She probably had Venus in Cancer too! Seriously love and nurture are intermeshed in your psyche and you love to care for others, be needed by them and offer them your emotional and physical support.

 

So it’s very painful when the ones you love don’t respond or reciprocate. You hurt fairly easily and are accustomed to dealing with mood swings. Bad moods seem to brew when you start ruminating over being left out, misunderstood or taken for granted. You value closeness and kindness, but few have the emotional breadth that you do and fewer still are as kind and considerate as you are. Therefore you might feel exhausted from giving out. This might be true in terms of emotionality, so it is important to find ways to let others nurture you. Kindred spirits demonstrate and reciprocate love in their own ways.

 

Since the Moon rules your Venus sign, emotional tides will be a regular feature in relationship. You will get to know them and find ways to surf them. This means that kinship and family are also valued. It not necessarily guarantees a loving family but it does suggest that you need to make your soulmates your family. Therefore in adult years your family circle embraces your friends, work mates, kindred spirits and loved ones.

 

Some astrological reports might suggest you are prone to mothering your partners and companions. Or that you might be an orphan looking for a foster home. Well, when did nursing and caring become such a problem? It certainly is not a problem for those who value your warmth, kindness and yummy meals! Those that can’t deal with closeness might flee, but your kindred spirits will always value your warmth and depth and are not afraid to be drawn into the tides of your feelings. You value kindness, tenderness and empathy; qualities that need to be returned for you to feel loved.

 

Mars is in Aries

How you assert yourself in your relationships and take the courage to be your own person is the domain of the Planet Mars. In the fiery Sign of Aries this suggests you are straightforward, up-front enthusiastic, positive and fairly goal orientated. So when you want something you just go for it. Mars is in its ruling sign so you are well equipped to do combat and put your needs forward. You are a natural at being a warrior and a champion and going right into battle for what you want. But your learning curve is how you find a way to meet your partner halfway in your close relationships.

 

Being a self-starter and independent you may tend to take your own advice and create your own opportunities rather than depend on others. Being more comfortable in the leader’s role, at the head of the pack, you are inclined to coaching or motivating others. Because you live spontaneously it’s enormously frustrating to wait while others get ready or make up their mind. You’re ready to go but are they? Impatience and autonomy get tempered in your relationships and you struggle to control the urge to run away when your independence is threatened or you feel you are not going anywhere with the relationship.

 

It’s great that you are able to express yourself. But with intimate others you need to listen to their side of the story and deal with your anger when you don’t get your way. You are also great at the chase and love the heat of the moment. But relationships have middles and ends as well, and those need a little more work. What you bring to your relationships is passion and excitement and what you want to find is a stimulating opponent who challenges you to be the best you can be.


CROSSING PATHS

 

Close Encounters with Kindred Spirits

 

 

“Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along.”

- Rumi

 

The Nodes

 

You won’t meet your kindred spirits accidentally. In the chronicles of the soul, there are no accidents, only meaningful coincidences; therefore your soulmates are already familiar to you. Whether you come across them in the sacred circle of your family, the playgrounds of your childhood, in your adult establishments or your elderly neighbourhoods, they are already part of you. Whether these relationships last a minute or a lifetime, are filled with happiness or conflict, they are destiny’s design woven into your life’s intricate tapestry. Therefore it is inevitable that at some time your path will intersect the paths of your soulmates.

 

But when? Well this is the riddle of relationship. Whatever arrangement or timing brings you into alignment with your kindred spirits is the inexplicable mystery of the soul. Astrology is a great aid in this regard as it can bypass layers of rational minds to explore timing in relationships. Astrology’s timing techniques are invaluable in helping to focus on major and meaningful passages in relationship. Consulting a professional astrologer to explore these questions can be highly revealing and rewarding. Within the limits of this report we can draw on an aspect of your horoscope that will help you reflect on your encounters with kindred spirits. This is the House position of the North Node, a signpost that points to where soul may be encountered in relationship.

 

The House positions of the Nodes illustrate environmental factors that shape and influence your fate, including relationship. This is where the inner and outer worlds lead us to a rendezvous with soul. North Node experiences are out of the ordinary, since its nature is both subjective and participatory with the spiritual world. Therefore the House position of the North Node locates one of the settings where engagement with the spiritual self occurs. The South Node is in the opposite House and describes a familiar place, an area of safety, and a comfort zone that supplies an anchor for our relationships. However it is also a place where we can become fixed, caught in the safety zone of our complacency and neglect the invitation of the North Node. That would be a shame as it is at this pole where you might cross paths with a kindred spirit.

 

Considering this one image in your Horoscope invites you to feel more masterful in participating with your soul’s journey and more receptive to close encounters with kindred spirits.

 

The North Node is in the 5th House

Close your eyes. Take a deep breath and then ask yourself the question “what attributes attract me to others?” Laughter? Fun? Innocence? Enthusiasm? Confidence? Creativity? Drama? Romance? Expressiveness? Play? Ah, yes, play. Taking the risk to express yourself and be playful are liberating. But you need a friend to take these risks with, someone you can bounce ideas off of and who can return your serve. And luckily for you, your kindred spirits are found in these places as well – they are your mates in the playground, the amusement park, the theatre, the concert hall or the sports stadium. Your challenge is to participate, not sit on the sidelines and let them do all the grandstanding. Be part of the team, not distant from it, or like Narcissus you may hear only the faint echoes of your own voice.

 

Your North Node is in the 5th House of your birth chart with the opposite pole of the South Node in the 11th House. This suggests that you might be susceptible to getting bogged down in group endeavours which may lure you away from your own personal creativity. Or you might be eclipsed by others in the group who take your spotlight and shine it on themselves. Destiny supports the development of your own unique, original designs and suggests that when you find the courage to be self motivated the voice of the community will encourage you. Then you find the circles that applaud your individuality. Kindred spirits share your creative flair and passion and no doubt you might first encounter them through mutual and shared interests. But lasting bonds are created when others are able to value and admire your uniqueness.

 

Your pathway emphasises personal self-expression and creativity, encouraging you to learn new creative art forms and skills. When you liberate yourself from being concerned about what others’ think or feel your playfulness will emerge. Children bring out the best in you because they are able to immediately contact your inner child and the joy of life. And that’s the litmus test for kindred spirits – can you play with them, do they make you laugh and do you feel better just being with them. Kindred spirits make you better about who you are. Draw upon your own experiences as a child, what it felt liked being a child or just consider your own vulnerabilities, then you will be inspired.

 

But you also need to front up with your spontaneity, creativity and optimism in order to feel fulfilled in relationship. Some people have said you are aloof and unavailable. And you might come across that way when you are stuck in the need for acceptance or approval. Irony is you have a huge approval rating. To feel the best you can feel you need to get involved with your creative self. Whether this is focused on the theatre, the creative arts, production, entertainment, sports, children etc. you belong in the spotlight. It might not feel comfortable but nonetheless it is where you need to head. When you let yourself be stimulated by innovative and novel ideas, you will find community support. As you move away from being self conscious toward becoming self expressive a clan of colleagues and a family of friends awaits. So too does that special companion.


CONCLUSION

 

“Love to some is like a cloud, to some as strong as steel

 For some a way of living, for some a way to feel

 And some say love is holding on and some say letting go

 And some say love is everything, some say they don’t know.”

 -John Denver, Perhaps Love

 

 

Songwriter John Denver’s lyrics capture the paradoxical nature of love for each individual. Every relationship whether it is familial or formal, professional or personal, intimate or casual is an invitation to self-discovery. We bring our hopes, secrets, expectations, resources and desires to our relationships and through the alchemy of interaction come to better know ourselves and others. Soul does not strive to work out or control relationship but inspires us to consider what is being asked of us; what is the fate of this relationship? In this way astrology is a unique tool in helping us reflect on the purpose and patterns of our relationships, not to fix or control them, but to understand their complexity and place in our lives.

 

Kindred spirits are relationships in which a deep bond is present, not inspired by the teachings of a self-help manual but through the soul’s grace. And that is a mystery which astrology helps us to consider. I have written this report to promote a spirit of inquiry into the patterns and purposes of soul in your relationships. Like soul there may be contradiction and confusion, as it seeks understanding not clarity. Also the report is limited in its nature to explore the more detailed and intricate patterns of your horoscope. However it is the author’s sincere hope that it provides an initial step to your reflection on relationships. Perhaps love in the end is what we are willing to bring to it, like the poet Ovid implied in “The Art of Love”: “If you’d be loved, be worthy to be loved”.

 

 

ABOUT THE AUTHOR Brian Clark is one of the main tutors of a four-year program in applied astrology, Astro*Synthesis which also offers a comprehensive course through distance learning. He has been teaching astrology for the past 30 years and lectured extensively to metaphysical, astrological and psychological groups in Australia, New Zealand, United States, Canada, Mexico and Europe. Previously in the Solar Writer series, Brian has written Vocation and co-authored Goddess available through Esoteric Technologies www.esotech.com.au. He is the author of The Sibling Constellation (Penguin Arkana: 1999), Celestial Tarot (US Games: 2007) and a contributing author to Intimate Relationships (Llewellyn, 1991), books that have also been translated into French and Japanese. As well Brian has written numerous articles for leading astrological publications which have been translated into Spanish, Italian, French and German, and is the author of numerous students booklets on astrology available through AstroSynthesis www.AstroSynthesis.com.au. Brian also lectures on mythology and conducts tours to sacred sites in Greece through Odyssey Tours to Ancient Greece. Brian has a BA from Sir George Williams University in Montreal as well as his Graduate Diploma, Post Graduate Diploma and MA in Classics and Archaeology from Melbourne University.

 

 

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